It’s that time of week again! Time for…..
I want to share with you another powerful piece from the gratitude chapter in my coaching manual that I find really helpful.
Sometimes we don‟t notice the things that we should be grateful for; we simply forget them or take them for granted. Other times the wonderful blessings we have in life are obscured by other negative experiences, which seem to overpower them and skew our focus. For example, the pain of going through a divorce will often make people forget the many wonderful times they experienced in their marriage. A person who experiences a loss or tragedy may forget everything good that happened during the whole period surrounding it. When people go through difficult times, they tend to want to put the whole experience behind them. Unfortunately, this sometimes includes putting the many opportunities to be grateful behind them as well.
A powerful activity to do is to write down an experience in the past year where things went wrong. Then write down all the lessons you learned from the experience. This activity helps you to identify past events to be grateful for. Even more powerful than that, however, it trains you to seek out opportunities to be grateful in the future even when you are going through challenges.
A similar phenomenon occurs in our interaction with people. Often when we experience a hurt from another person, the emotion of the hurt makes us forget any positives about that person and we cease to even see their good points. We can become imprisoned by the past, unable to get past the hurt.
If this is the case, take a piece of paper and write the other person‟s name on the top. Write the hurt in the middle of the page and put a circle around it. Then write down all the things the other person may have done to be kind or helpful. This activity is not designed to have you gloss over unacceptable behavior or to make you vulnerable to further hurtful incidents. It is designed, rather, to put hurts in context. By doing so, we grow the amount of the things that you have to feel grateful for and help you to salvage positive experiences to reflect on.
My Ten Things I love Thursday.
I am grateful for….
- Dustin for surprising me one night and coming home from work with all the groceries (which was a lot) we needed and cooking me Naan pizza dinner that night=) Also, for taking good care of me when I wasn’t feeling good!
- Having few great long runs, included the one where I run to Dustin’s parents house (about 9 miles) for our usual Friday Night BBQ. An awesome track workout. Altogether having great runs all week long and feeling my speed coming back.
- Receiving the job offer letter I was waiting for and all the great and empowering people I will be working with!
- Spending great time with family and friends and for all being so supportive and proud for my career change. I love you all!
- Being by the ocean.
- Soft serve ice cream.
- Spontaneous Mani & Pedi date with my best girlfriends.
- A great 6 miles walk with Dustin & Luna around the Fresh Pond Reservoir.
- SYTYCD – So You Think You Can Dance for an incredible contemporary dance number, choreographed by Mandy Moore, danced by Caitlynn & Mitchell with the music by Céline Dion, ” To Love You More”. Definitely my favorite number of the Night that gave me chills!